Tag: History of BDSM

I'd like to say I have a love hate relationship with twitter but to be honest, I have no love for Twitter at all and can't even be bothered hating it any more after all the shadowbanning. Best I can do is barely tolerate Twitter to the extent of maintaining the kind of presence on there that's expected of a SW.

Sandra Vitamin S

Sandra, TS Ama and Mistress Volga get silky.

Oz Bigdownunder A Trio with Mistress Chatterley and TS Ama

Ama again! She's everywhere. This time with Oz and Mistress Chatterley.

Sex Worker Search Twitter (X) Shadowbans

I don't see why Twitter can't just have an NSFW on, NSFW off button and then advertisers can decide whether they want their ads to appear next to NSFW content or not. As opposed to rewarding SWs for all our hard work providing free content, without which Twitter would die, with sneaky backstabby shadowbans.

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Funzze What's the BEST Material for Adult Toys?

Silicone is a personal favourite but I just recently received a stainless steel anal dildo from Funzze to review. I love it. Review coming soon.

Musings of a Switch The Early Days

William Wallace reminisces.

Buzzvibes Open Relationships: Understanding the Landscape of Modern Love

Erotic Non Fiction

Kristina J The Edge of Anticipation and Desire: A Journey into Sensual Surrender

It's as if time itself has slowed down, each second stretched to its limits as we linger on the precipice of pleasure, suspended in the delicious agony of anticipation.

Beyond Non-Binary Period Sex and Sleeping with the Divine Feminine

And puppy gets a leash and collar.

Erotic Fiction

Jasmine Gold The Unicorn

The mythical beast with three backs.

Jerusalem Mortimer Bedroom Eyes 33

+1 the Chemical Brothers.

FYHO The Polaroid

It's a Kodak moment

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

barefoot sub Bend Me, Break Me (Please)

Beautiful pic and post. Shirley Manson would approve.

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Charlie and Margeaux On Squirting

Wet and wild. Never heard it called a platinum shower before. That's awesome.

Product Reviews

Sydney Screams Blush Wellness Eternal Wand Review

An ergonomic wand for people with accessibility needs.

Princess Previews Odyssey Toys Coffin Grinder

Love the colours and design. Gigeresque.

Sex Toy DB Hankey’s Toys: Davy’s Tendrils Dildo

That's a tentacular tentacle. My tentacle dildo is more of the squishy variety so a more rigid one would come in handy.

Books and Movies

History of BDSM Peter and TammyJo review S&M Sally (2015)

Even if you've never seen the movie and have no intention of seeing it, I still recommend watching this video review just to hear two highly experienced and knowledgeable kink historians chatting.

Once again, it's an honour to have my Clientopedia blog post featured alongside the writings of so many talented sex bloggers. Beautiful cover image this month courtesy of Jo Koss.

Books and Movies

History of BDSM Roman Scandals (1933): The Celluloid Dungeon

You had me at Roman Slave Market! Possibly not the most politically correct screenplay ever written but it was the 1930s.

Erotic Fiction

When Jerry Met Ali Voyeur

That cum isn't going to wipe itself up. Might as well use his tongue.

Jerusalem Mortimer Bedroom Eyes 32

Maires and Master discuss what to do with their slave, Scallop. They settle on using her for a tray table.

Jasmine Gold Hyperion Man

Imperfect, genuinely interesting characters in a realistic setting with real chemistry in short story that builds a lot of atmosphere. This is really impressively well written. And the investment manager has magic fingers.

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

barefoot sub The Impact Of Running

I learned something new. It's possible to have an orgasm from running! And other forms of exercise. They're called coregasms. Awesome!

Pain as Pleasure Burn And Rave At Close Of Day

Though wise men at their end know dark is right.

Erotic Non Fiction

Kristina J The Girlfriend Experience: What Sets My Heart Racing and Ignites Desire

From now on whenever anyone asks me what GFE is, I'm sending them this link. The definitive answer.

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Buzz Vibes The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Satisfaction for New Couples

The most important thing in the bedroom is not what happens between your legs but what happens between your ears.

Product Reviews

Sex Toy DB E-Stim Systems Large Torpedo Review

An electro play butt plug purchased with a gift card won as one of the prizes from last months Elust.

Sex Work

Amelia Swann Couples and Curiosity

How to have the perfect threesome with an escort.

Fox Digital Can AI Deblur Your Photos And Identify You?

Yes. But it seems like if you're not facing directly into the camera, a high level of blur is used and/or your face isn't evenly lit so there are uneven shadows and highlights, the deblur won't work that well. Yet. Wait and see where this tech is in a few years.

The Lady Phoenix Vision in Crimson

Becky gets a sissy makeover.

Carrie Young Introducing The Working Submissive

I subscribed. It's a fascinating subject and there really is very little information available about how to be a professional submissive.

Sandra Duo with TS Ama

An M F TS threesome, latex fetish, cross dressing and anal play. My kind of first date.

Hellga Latex Fantasy Session with Poppers Gas Mask

A hardcore fucking machine DP session with a sequel yet to be published set in a sex dungeon.

Oz Valentine's Day Voyeur Duo with Kensley

Roses and chocolates are overrated. Book an escort or two for a Valentine's day treat!

Sex Worker Search Clientopedia

My post with all the answers for clients curious about how to safely arrange an appointment with a sex worker.

Blogging

Musings of a Switch An independent artist search

Beautiful pic. I'd love to see the transwoman version.

Writing about writing

Ramone Quides Welcoming in 2024 with Writer’s Block

Ramone reaches to his muses for inspiration.

Elust 169 has it all. From a stunning image courtesy of Calea Toxic, to Wonder Woman, orgasm denial, spanking, Femdom, snowman sex toys, sex dolls, big balls, the best sex toys of 2023, self-pleasure, buggery, G- spots, and so much more.

Blogging

Ramone Quides, Oh, What a November to Remember!

Reflections on the year that was and teasers for upcoming plans for 2024.

Books and Movies

History of BDSM, TammyJo & Peter discuss Professor Marston & the Wonder Women

Covering how to be bi and kinky in the 1930s, negotiating polyamory in the closet, and the femdom episode of Speed Buggy.

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Cut to the Chaste, A Debate Over Orgasm Denial and Chastity

There is more to chastity than orgasm denial, eg psychological power dynamics, exploration of boundaries, and intimacy-building.

Pieces of Jade, Happy Christm-ASS

180 whacks!

Morgan Destera, Guest Blog - Kylie Cockwhore

Your favorite gay cockslut is a sucker of thumbs, amongst other things.

Podopheleus, 7 Powerful Insights: Exploring the Essence of France FemDom with Inanna Justice

Inanna Justice and Pod discuss France FemDom, an international three-day event celebrating female domination.

Product reviews

barefoot, The Joy Snowman- A Bestvibe Review

Tis the season to wank yourself off with a sex toy shaped like a snowman.

Sex Toy DB, This Hip Doll Fucks You Back: Sinloli Ethel 27lb “Smart” Hip Doll Review

A sex doll with a ridiculously cool superpower: she fucks back

Joanne's Reviews, Colon Balls Platinum Silicone Depth Trainer

The smallest of the four size options is not small enough for those new to anal, at roughly the size of a satsuma.

Betty's Toy Box, The Top 10 New Sex Toys of 2023. A Sexy Year in Review

The most popular toys of the past year, the newest, most innovative, and bestselling sex toys.

Princess Previews, Top 10 Sex Toys of 2023

Number one on this list and number one on Betty's list above are both on my shopping list for sure.

Erotic Fiction

Jasmine Gold, Teacher's Pet

A parent teacher conference gets smutty.

Jaime Mortimer. Bedroom Eyes 31

Maires gets buggered. Stephanie has an unusual pet name. "Scallop".

Erotic Non Fiction

Kristina J, The Role of Ego in BDSM: Navigating Power Dynamics with Awareness

Musings of a Switch, Female desires.

William fantasises about having the appearance and desires of a woman

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Buzz Vibes, Everything you need to know about the G-Spot

This article discusses the elusive g-spot, describing its location and variations in sensitivity, offering tips on how to find and stimulate it using fingers, vibrators, or different sexual positions, and showcasing popular g-spot toys to enhance sexual experiences and intimacy with your partner.

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Liz X Likes, Unlocking the Surprising Mental Health Benefits of Self-Pleasure

The mental health benefits of self-pleasure, including stress relief through oxytocin release, improved mood due to endorphins and dopamine, and better sleep regulation.

Sex Work

Lady Phoenix, 12 Months A Slave

Slave M's journey over the past year has involved intense training in serving and worshiping his Mistress, highlighting his significant progress and numerous new experiences during their sessions and outings, ultimately demonstrating the potential for a novice slave to excel under proper guidance and commitment.

Ms Sapora Knight, Erotic Devotion

Vividly describes a passionate and spiritual union between two individuals, emphasizing the intense sensations, emotional connection, and surrendering of the self to a transcendent experience of love and desire.

Sex Worker Search, Sexworkopedia

An A to Z of sex work.

Delilah Odell, Adventures In Playing For Both Teams: January 2024 Edition

An escort's experiences as a client of escorts between December 2018 and July 2023.

Image courtesy of Adrianna Assante.

It's Christmas Eve and Elust 168 is a gift that keeps on giving. We delve into a diverse range of topics within the realm of books, movies, erotic fiction, sex work, product reviews, and thoughtful insights on kink and relationships. From a book review of "Principle Decisions" by Thea Belmont, exploring BDSM themes and deep character exploration, to an examination of the Canadian psychological drama "I Love a Man in Uniform (1993)" and its exploration of obsession and control. Dive into reviews of erotic fiction, insights on kink and fetish, and product reviews covering various adult toys. Join me in opening up a Santa's sackful of erotica and sexuality.

Thanks to ChatGPT for a little help with the summaries to follow.

Books and Movies

Book Review: Principle Decisions by Thea Belmont

Sally Bend reviews "Principle Decisions" by Thea Belmont, praising its deep character exploration and BDSM themes. The protagonist, Vivienne, is a complex character whose journey into submission is both cathartic and reflective. Bend recommends the book for its engaging romance and thoughtful depiction of personal and relational dynamics.

I Love a Man in Uniform (1993): The Celluloid Dungeon

Celluloid Dungeon reviews a Canadian psychological drama, exploring how Henry Adler, a bank clerk turned actor, becomes increasingly obsessed with his police officer role in a TV cop show. As he immerses himself in his character and the accompanying uniform, he descends into a disturbing desire for control and intimidation, ultimately leading to tragic consequences.

Exit To Eden, by Anne Rice

Oz Bigdownunder reviews "Exit to Eden" by Anne Rice. Sadly it seems the book superficially handles its BDSM theme and transitions awkwardly from a kinky narrative to a conventional romance.

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

What’s Wrong With Forced Feminization?

Cut to the Chaste explores the cultural and psychological aspects of Forced Feminization, whereby submissive men engage in feminizing activities, sometimes as part of their chastity dynamics. The author reflects on the personal and societal implications, debates around sexism and consent in kink, and the personal experiences and boundaries related to feminization, aiming to provide a nuanced view of the subject.

A little pick me up.

The barefoot sub discusses the therapeutic and calming effects of rope suspension. Rope bondage can be a personal sanctuary, offering a form of escape from mental clutter and emotional distress. barefoot recounts a recent experience of rope play that provided emotional relief and a sense of peace, highlighting the importance of such activities as personal coping mechanisms.

BDSM Aftercare

The Disorderly House post emphasizes the crucial importance of aftercare in BDSM activities for both the submissive and the dominant. It describes the physiological and psychological changes experienced during BDSM play, including the highs of power play and the subsequent "drop" experienced by both parties. The article explains what a sub drop and a Dom drop are and discusses the potential physical and emotional symptoms. It then underscores the necessity of aftercare to mitigate these effects, offering a variety of aftercare practices to ensure the well-being of all participants and maintain the intimacy of the relationship.

Unlocking Pleasure: 14 Essential Prodomme Tips for Baby Subs

Podopheleus' post aimed at individuals new to the BDSM scene. Pod shares personal insights and guidance for those exploring submission and considering engaging with a professional dominatrix. The article covers a range of topics, including the importance of thorough research, respect and communication, setting personal boundaries, and understanding the human aspect of dominatrix-submissive relationships. It emphasizes the need for consent, self-respect, and patience in navigating these dynamics, aiming to prepare new submissives for a safe and fulfilling journey into BDSM.

Erotic Fiction

Tender Domination

An excerpt from a story by Ramone Quides being written for a book release. It narrates a vivid scene of a couple engaging in dominant-submissive play, specifically focusing on the female dominance in their sexual relationship. Set in a secluded yet accessible location, the story explores the dynamics of consent, control, and sexual fulfilment between the couple, "Mark" and the narrator. It depicts scenes of eroticism, dominance, and aftercare, highlighting the trust and communication that underpin their relationship. The excerpt provides a glimpse into the power play, emotional connection, and the sensual pleasure of BDSM activities, aiming to entice readers with the couple's intimate and controlled exploration of dominance and submission.

End

"The Ghost of Timor – Ch.21 – End" is a concluding chapter of a serialized erotic fiction story, detailing the protagonist Alison's introspective and sensual journey. It reflects on her past and present relationships, particularly focusing on rekindling an old flame, Jeremy, and navigating the complexities of her desires and regrets. The narrative is rich with moments of self-discovery, sexual exploration, and emotional revelation, culminating in a vividly described solo erotic experience amidst the countryside. Alison's journey is one of self-acceptance and exploration, marked by a poignant questioning of past decisions and a newfound willingness to embrace her desires. The story is published by Dr Girlfriend, an author known for writing erotic fiction.

Sexy Ghost Story – Mia’s Books

A post by Tabitha Rayne announcing the release of her new erotic tale and audiobook titled "Mia's Books – A Ghostly Obsession," just in time for the spooky season. The story revolves around Mia, an insomniac who finds solace in reading spicy romance novels to fall asleep. One night, she sneaks into a library and encounters a ghostly entity that emerges from a dusty tome and begins a spectral seduction. This paranormal experience continues at home as Mia falls in love with the spirit, which knows how to please her but becomes increasingly demanding.

Sex Work

Squeeze me Please Me

Kristina-J's informative guide to cock rings. The post reflects Kristina's knowledge and experience in sexual wellness, aiming to educate readers on the benefits and proper use of cock rings.

Double Deflowering

Lady Phoenix recounts a sensual BDSM session between the author, a dominatrix, and a young man named Henry. In their second meeting, the session is aimed to be more sensual and exploratory, particularly focusing on Henry's anal deflowering. Lady Phoenix describes preparing Henry for the experience, including wearing a strap-on and guiding him through his first anal penetration with care and gradual intensity. The narrative delves into the physical sensations and emotional dynamics of the encounter, highlighting trust, consent, and discovery. It concludes with Henry also losing his actual virginity, making it a double deflowering session, guided by Lady Phoenix's expertise and the symbolic power of her Phoenix tattoo, leading to a synchronized climax.

Happy Poo Emoji

The post is a blog entry by Sandra detailing her experience with a new client who requested a scat fetish session as part of a kinky girlfriend experience. The client was respectful and sincere, leading to a successful encounter where they engaged in a fetish act involving defecation. Sandra narrates the unusual request with a sense of normalcy and professionalism, reflecting on the nature of such requests in the sex work industry.

What to Do When Your Sexual Expectations Fail You?

Sapora Knight addresses the issue of sexual performance anxiety and the unrealistic expectations individuals often have in intimate settings. It emphasizes the impact of mental stress and societal pressures on sexual dysfunction and the disconnect from true intimacy. The author suggests a shift towards presence and internal awareness, offering practical advice and steps to foster genuine connection and pleasure, moving away from goal-oriented mindsets to more fulfilling sexual experiences. The post encourages readers to explore and embrace vulnerability in their sexual relationships for deeper intimacy.

Revolting Prostitutes Book Review

My review of an excellent book by Juno Mac and Molly Smith. RP emphasizes the importance of listening to sex workers' voices, advocating for their rights and dignity, and challenging the stigmatization they face. The authors argue for the decriminalization of sex work as a means to enhance safety and working conditions, presenting a well-researched discussion on the legal, social, and economic dimensions of the industry.

Product reviews

Tracy's Dog Flowliper Vibrator - Innovative Features and Honest Insights

Liz X provides a detailed evaluation of the Flowliper Vibrator, highlighting its innovative features and sharing personal insights. The review covers aspects like design, build quality, charging, waterproof capabilities, and user experience, emphasizing its lightweight nature, IPX6 waterproof rating, and versatile stimulation heads. Liz praises the product's packaging, magnetic charging, and fun pulse mode, while noting its milder suction and niche pulse mode as potential drawbacks.

Review: Velvet Thruster Prime

Princess Previews evaluates the Velvet Thruster Prime, a modular thruster with multiple heads and accessories, highlighting its thrusting capabilities, versatility, and innovative design. Despite praising its performance and unique features, the review also notes significant issues with durability and water resistance. The Prime is recognized for its powerful thrusting ability but criticized for technical problems and its high price, leading to a mixed overall impression.

RawLoveStudio Moonbean Unicorn Dildo

The review on Witch of the Wands covers the Moonbean Unicorn Dildo by RawLoveStudio, celebrating its fantasy unicorn horn design and suitability for beginners to fantasy toys. The dildo is praised for its unique design, comfortable handling, and gentle texture, suitable for both strap-on use and hand-held play. The reviewer highlights its aesthetic appeal, custom color options, and the delightful experience it provides, especially noting the comfortable base and silicone's perfect squish. Overall, the review recommends the Moonbean for those venturing into fantasy toys or looking to add a whimsical touch to their collection.

Uncle Bob Silicone Dildo From John Thomas Toys

The SexToyDB review criticizes the Qiui BeatPat Electro-Spanker for its poor design and ineffective electro play feature, which fails to deliver the promised sensations. The device's cheap feel and an unintuitive app further detract from the experience. The review concludes by advising against the purchase due to its fundamental flaws and lack of value.

Qiui BeatPat Electro-Spanker Review: Is This Thing Even On?

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Keeping Your Toys Clean: A Guide to Protecting Your Health and Pleasure

Buzz Vibes blog highlights the necessity of cleaning sex toys to prevent infections, preserve their quality, and ensure hygiene. It recommends appropriate cleaning methods based on the toy's material, proper storage, and regular checks for damage. Using condoms on porous toys and suitable lubricants is also advised for safety and enhanced pleasure. The blog underscores that proper care extends toy life and ensures safe usage.

The perfect image thanks to Pod1213 to illustrate the sexiness that is this months collection of sex blog posts in Elust 167.

Product Reviews

Beating Expectations With A Panty Vibrator

Review of the Joi Thrust by Honeyplaybox

The Hottest Vibe of the Year! See the Snail Curve in Action

Review: Magic Wand Micro

Midnight Menagerie Teufl

The Best Fucking Machine to Buy in 2023

I'm a big monster dildo fan. That Teufl looks amazing!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Joy of Sex for Menopausal Women: How to Reignite the Flame

Home for the Polydays

What if your +1 for Christmas dinner is your polycule? Ready for Polyamory has some ideas.

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Maintenance Spanking: Why and How To Add It To Your Relationship

Silken Claws on setting protocol, relation with punishment, how to set the right level of intensity, whether consent is necessary and much more when it comes to maintenance spankings.