Welcome to Elust 190
Cover image courtesy of Kate Leigh.
A bubbling cauldron of austenitic sex blog posts will put the shakti in your vajrayana.
Sex & Relationships
Morgan Destera, Ten Years!
The trip mentioned in this post is recounted in detail in the latest post on Morgan's blog. Check it out!
Sex Toy DB, So You’ve Bought a Sex Machine … Now What?
X2 the plumbers pipe clamps recommendation to fix your sex machine in place. When I had my f machine clamped to the bed frame, that thing was a beast.
Lushense, How To Choose The Best Lubricant For Your Intimate Moments
Silicone lube with metal or glass toys is a good shout. Just take care not to get it on fabric. It's not easy to wash out.
Betty's Toy Box, The Smart Guide to Penis Extensions for Couples
Detachable penis.
Kink & Fetish
Mx Valentina, A Man isn't Whole without a Woman to Serve
The fortunate few are allowed to serve a sex witch.
Erotica
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei - Prologue 16
That student has spent 16 chapters getting penetrated by Sensei. She's going to get home from school 16 days late, walking like John Wayne.
Sugarbutch, You’ll Take Whatever I Can Dish Out
And take it they do.
Liz Black X, Lumiis Glow - Sasha's Bimbo Bliss Fiction
Bimbotastic.
Non Fiction
Tantric Sexual Healing, The Erotic Body as Cosmic Mirror: Tantric Rituals of Union and the Politics of Liberation
My vajrayana is overflowing with shakti.
Hannah McKnight, He’s Wearing a Skirt…
If the femme clothes fits.
Sex Work
Elizabeth of London, Athens
Fox Digital, How to Attract Wealthy Clients in an Oversaturated Market
Does it really matter how affluent they are? £300 is £300, I don't care if it's handed to me by a billionaire or a barista.
The Siren Domme, Five Archetypes of a Dom/me (and Why You Don’t Have to Pick Just One)
Whenever I see emdashes, I copy and paste the article into grammarly to see how much of it is AI generated. Only 8% in this case which is a relief. It would be a bit scary if something this well written, accurately describing various Domme archetypes was 100% chat gpt. I suspect what the author, and many of us (myself included) has done, is drafted notes, typed up the ideas, and then used Gen AI for fine tuning and formatting the post for SEO optimisation.
Sex Worker Search, Payment Portal Pre-Release Invite
Give it a try. I think this, or something very like it, will be the future for sex workers. I can't wait to see how we can benefit from receiving payments directly via a widget on our own personal websites and see hypocrites like onlyfans that take 30% + of our hard earned profits whilst providing effectively no value and doing nothing for our community, take a massive financial hit as we all leave their platform.
Hellga, Conor's Craic. My Upcoming Tour of Dublin, Ireland
Top of the morning to you.
Books and Movies
History of BDSM, Pillion (2025): The Celluloid Dungeon
Writing About Writing
Oxy Shop, Femdom Fiction: How Erotic Stories Spark Real-Life Submission
More emdashes. Grammarly says this one is close to 100% AI generated. The subject matter is interesting. The content is informative. The formatting is impeccable. Look at how all the sentences are almost the exact same length and the paragraphs all have almost the exact same number of sentences. It's like a ChatGPT haiku of SEO optimised text blocks.
Ambyr Leigh, On Writing Anal Sex Scenes
No emdashes. Compare and contrast. Varying character count of sentences and paragraphs, first person perspective, personal opinions and anecdotes, a lot less structured, no subheadings. Grammarly says it's zero percent AI. It does look like it's been deliberately SEO optimised so the author is probably following the guidance of the Yoast plug in or similar. I use Yoast too. It is good for search ranking but the reason it's good for search ranking is because Google is giving us better rankings in exchange for making content that's easier for it's AI to parse and then extracting our ideas, without crediting us, to generate it's own AI mode responses which appear above search results. So it's tricking us into agreeing to a Faustian bargain where we are working to help Google render ourselves obsolete. But that's progress. I'm not anti AI but I do think things like what I describe above are taking the piss.
Product Reviews
Oz Bigdownunder, Funzze Three Bead Stainless Steel Butt Plug Review
Austenitic.
Body Talk and Sexual Health
Femina Viva, Is Learning How to Receive My Waterloo?
Waterloo? That's between Southwark and Westminster on the Jubilee line, innit?
Welcome to Elust 189
Cover image courtesy of Venus Fantasy.
Pole may be slippery when wet.
Sex Work
Elizabeth of London, Sex in Selfridges
I tried it on but it was a bit tight.
Charli, Your Deposit, Your Provider, and You
Do your research, pay deposits to genuine providers, not to scammers.
Jack Parker, How to Discuss Sex Work with Friends and Family
In my case, don't, but if you did, excellent advice to follow here.
Hellga, One More Night in Paris
C’est sexy. Tres sexy. It's fine written down but when I try to speak romance languages romantically, I sound like Brad Pitt in Inglorious Basterds.
Sandra, Hide and Seek in a Hotel Lobby & Hardcore Fucking in a Hotel Room
Only a ballerina would attempt to do anything involving walking, let alone running, in Louboutins.
Oz Bigdownunder, Mrs Robinson. MMF Duo with an Elegant English Mistress
Hard day at the office.
Sex Worker Search, How to Suck Like a Porn-Star
Sloppily.
Erotic Fiction
Mx Valentina, The Making of a Puppy
Woof.
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei - Prologue 15
Sensei has spent the last 14 chapters fucking his students, that school is going to fire him so hard when he does eventually go back to work.
Blogging
Morgan Destera, Announcement
I'm happy to hear Morgan will still be posting.
Liz X, Evolving Desires - My Journey from Soft Surrender to Darker Depths in Erotica
Extreme bimbofication.
Erotic Non Fiction
Tantric Sexual Healing, Tantra and the Renewal of Desire: Sustaining Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships
Tantra is not a distant, esoteric discipline but a living pedagogy capable of transforming relational life. My lingam throbs when you talk pedagogical to me.
Body Talk and Sexual Health
Sexual Wellness Professional Alliance, The Best Sexual Wellness Workshops and Certification Programs
Well, well, well.
Femina Viva, Owning my demons
The horsies.
Product Reviews
Miss Ruby Reviews, We-Vibe Melt 2
A pressure wave clitoral suction toy.
Lushense, CockBlock - The Best Gay Sex Toy From Another Universe
Let’s answer the question every curious astronaut might ask: what is frotting?
Pleasure Me Now, We-Vibe Jive Review: Meet Your New Favorite Egg Vibrator!
What came first? The chicken or the egg?
Ramone Quides, A Most Tantalizing Kurve
The + and - are designed to be recognisable by touch. That's cool! Brail for buzz my clit harder. Or softer.
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Buzzvibes, 5 Red Flags Your Sex Life Is Heading for a Snooze Fest
Maybe your love life's D.O.A. It's like you're always stuck in second gear When it hasn't been your day, your week
Your month, or even your year, but I'll be there for you.
Welcome to Elust 187
Cover image courtesy of Heather Jana. Those are some dangerous looking curves.
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
Riz Ward's Leather, The 21 Hottest Sex Swing Positions You Must Try Tonight
They're frigging in the rigging.
Product Reviews
Super Smash Cache, Mid-Sized Fucking Machines: Positioning, Performance & SEISMIC BUT STABLE SCREWING
Mighty machines.
Sydney Screams, SVibe Snail Gizi Review
Quiet, Body-safe silicone, Unrolling design fits more anatomies, Waterproof submersible, won't eat holes in your cabbages.
Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – JulietToys Glow-in-the Dark Ovipositor Dildo
Entomological.
Miss Ruby Reviews, Wuzz Eli Clitoral Vibrator
Add some water based lube and it's just like a real tongue.
Ramone Quides, A Most Tantalizing Kurve
Magical places.
Man at Jerk, Bat Bites Toys Aux stroker review, or: thoughts on jerking off while trans
That toy looks a bit like Mr Hankey off South Park.
Erotic Fiction
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei - Prologue 13
The tightness of her rectal clasp on his cock.
Peach Kisser, Under My Peach Tree – Erotic Short Story
Anna would love the sweet juiciness of my peaches, just as she loved my sweet taste of pleasure.
Liz X, Bimbo Babes Steamy Nightclub Adventure Fiction
Bimbo bombshells.
Simone Francis, Daydreams of BDSM
Illustrated kinky short story.
Erotic Non-Fiction
Tantric Sexual Healing, Kundalinī Awakening and Erotic Alchemy: The Psychospiritual Transformation of the Subtle Body in Tantric Traditions
Cosmogenic consequences.
Sohimi, Reveal Experienced Sex Toy Users‘ Techniques
Dual motor technology.
Events
Miss Kim Rub, Gynarchy Governance Event
High protocol.
State of the World
Yi Ma (BBC News) and Eunice Yang (BBC Chinese), 'Every word has come back to haunt me': China cracks down on women who write gay erotica
A repressive, totalitarian surveillance state with zero tolerance for alternative lifestyles. And China is not the only one. Surely nobody wants the world to be this way?
Sex Work
Oz Bigdownunder, Peaches and Cream. A Sissy Forced-Bi Duo with Lady Lola
Katy Perry approves.
Sex Worker Search, SWOP Behind Bars Community Support Hotline Interview
The truth is out there.
Hellga, Back to the Blue Door Dungeon
Sissy cuckold fluffer.
Sandra, Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down
Shibari, Wild West style.
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Lushense, All You Need to Know About Arousal Serums
Intimate moments are a playground for discovery.
Welcome to Elust 182
Cover image courtesy of Kiki Lover.
Erotic Fiction
Fern River Cub, Bri & Liam spend a day with Lena & Carlos, Part 2
Four friends shed their clothes and their inhibitions.
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei - Prologue 7
Sensei eyes off Asuka's entry.
Sex Work
Lenore Sins, Sex Work & Love: Mistress Lenore’s Perspective
Elizabeth of London, Traveling and Sex
Naked swing sauna in Madrid.
Super Smash Cache, Making Money Lewd & Nude Modeling: The Grind Behind It
Sitting pretty.
Domina Jemma, Understanding and preparing for the implementation of the Online Safety Act. Info for adult providers.
Cautious optimism regarding how the OSA might be implemented.
Mx Valentina, The dominatrix as life coach
Beyond tutti frutti.
Femina Viva, Stepping onto the tantric path
A wild ride.
Maîtresse Nuit, BDSM Power Games: Pushing Limits And Playing At The Edge Of The Unbearable
Helot submits to a forced bi ritual.
Sex Worker Search, I Hate My Job: Thots on Labor, Sex Work, and Capitalism. An Interview with Adrie Rose
Sex work is work even when it's not wonderful and empowering. It can be hard work, or just an ordinary day at the office like any other job.
Erotic Non Fiction
Tantric Sexual Healing, The Metaphysics of Desire: Tantra, Eroticism, and the Transmutation of the Self
Nothing is intrinsically impure or profane.
Kristina J, Whispers of Enchantment
Awakening Your Inner Essence, Discovering the Art of Tantra and the Transformative Power of Tantric Massage
Liz Black, How a Sex Doll Creates Comfort During Cold Weather
Hygge.
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
The Disorderly House, 10 Ways To Stop Having Terrible Condom Sex
Modesty Ablaze, 50 Sexy Questions - 11 to 15
Betty's Toy Box, Top 8 Foods to Boost Your Libido: What to Eat for a Healthier Sex Life
Eats nuts and leaves.
Interviews
Dirk Hooper, Fetish Week: Interview with Comic Book Artist SexGazer by Dirk Hooper
This is a very interesting read since NSFW artists face many of the same obstacles as sex workers in terms of de-platformimg, shadowbanning, discrimination from payment portals and card processors etc.
Product Reviews
Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Inflatable Vibrator
I like the concept. Maybe the sequel will get it just right.
Miss Ruby Reviews, Tracy’s Dog Swirlii
Cute. Looks like a claymation character.
Lushense, Top UK Sex Toy Brands in 2025
Great shouts. Most of them I'm familiar with but there's a few new brands there that look very promising.
Writing About Writing
Emily Rooks, Emily Describes Her Writing Process
Conflict resolution, erotica style.
Welcome to Elust 181
Erotic Fiction
Fern River Cub, Come-In (Part 2)
There's going to be an event where hundreds of naked people will simultaneously masturbate to orgasm? Let's go!
Jerusalem Mortimer, In the Realm of the Sensei - Prologue 5
Sensei teaches Yua, Chiaki and Asuka a lesson.
Peach Kisser, Mid-Flight Hospitality
A sapphic trip to the mile high club. Loins swimming with desire.
Simone Francis, Fetish Secretary
What's the office policy regarding inserting company property into one's orifices during business hours?
Ambyr Leigh, My Terrible Date Fucked Me Bareback In The Backseat Of His Car
That's going to leave a stain on the upholstery.
Schey Place Books, The Story So Far
The award winning adventures of story of reunited lovers, Christian and Alison.
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Natalie Hepburn, Surviving a Dead Bedroom
It's pining for the fjords.
Tantric Sexual Healing, Tantric Erotism and the Transcendence of the Ego
The boundless unity of existence.
Blogging
Miss Ruby Reviews, A Decade in the Sex Toy Industry
Happy decaversary!
Erotic Non Fiction
Modesty Ablaze, Modest 50 Sexy Questions – 6 to 10
The questions = What are your thoughts on foreplay? Favourite types, Best Experiences, Wishes? What parts of your lover’s body are you most drawn to? If you don’t currently have a lover, consider past or future lovers. Consider a moment in your life of great sensuality, eroticism or sexuality. Then answer the questions that Mary Oliver does in her poem “Gratitude” as they apply to that moment: If you were to recreate the early days of your favourite sexy relationship, what would they look like? Would you change anything? What would you want more of in your sex life?
Awakening Your Inner Essence, The alchemy of surrender and activation
Shiva and Shakti are at it again.
Product Reviews
Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Twisted Beast Marchosias
Demonic
Oh Joy Sex Toy, The Uberrime Fantasy by Hien Pham
Avatar the last dildo bender.
Sydney Screams, FemmeFunn Klio Vibrator Review
A triple action rabbit style vibrator with g-spot, a-spot and clitoral stimulation.
Liz X, Beyond Ordinary Stimulation - Kiiroo ProWand with App Streaming
A wand that integrates with different online streaming sites so that lights change colour to indicate when the model receives a tip from a viewer.
Lushense, Introducing the Viballdo - The World's 1st Vibrating Ball Dildo
The evolution of ball sex.
Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish
Cara Sutra, How A Woman Gets Pleasure From Pegging Men & Strap-On Sex
Helping to dispel multiple myths and stigma surrounding strap-on sex.
Sex Work
Lady Ava Sheridon, The Application Process; and why yours might be unsuccessful
FAQ’s
Kristina J, Authenticity and Connection: The Art of Being Real in Sex Work
Feel the realness.
Princess Kaz, Dommes – Carving Out You-Time
The importance of self care. Especially for us introverts.
Miss Kim Rub, Leather Fetishist Domme
Gotta love the smell and texture of leather.
Sex Worker Search, Are Sex Workers Welcome on Bluesky?
I hope to update this with a definitive answer if Bluesky responds.
Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humour
History of BDSM, “People Who Like Kinky Sex Are Just Bad In Bed”: Evie Magazine and the Raw Milkmaid Dress
This must be the most "only in America" thing of all time = Evie Magazine is a conservative women’s magazine first published in 2019. Its aesthetics and content reflect the “trad life/trad wife” movement, creating a pastoral fantasy of rural, agrarian labour combined with an idealized hetero-nuclear family. At the fringier end of things, Evie’s content splices into ideologies like pronatalism, anti-vaccination, the benefits of “raw milk” and other health quackery, transphobia, anti-feminism, COVID denial, QAnon, etc.